March 16, 2017 Alicia Castro 2Comment

Relationships are complicated.  Sometimes they break like a glass.  When a glass breaks, it will never be the same.  It’s better to leave it broken.  Let it be a learning experience.

We were together for 4 years.  As the years passed, our relationship turned into a friend zone.  I got dumped at age 27.  He was my first boyfriend.  A few months later, he was in a relationship with a different person. It is possible that he cheated and I didn’t care.  I’m happy for him because I never loved him.  I thought I did but I was wrong.

I was mad at myself.  A majority of my friends were his.  I had no one to talk to.  I was 450 miles away when he broke-up with me over the phone.  I stayed away from home for 4 weeks and deactivated all my social media accounts.  Sarah, my friend, noticed something was wrong.  Those 2 weeks were the loneliest and darkest times of my life.  She called and we talked for hours.  She convinced me to watch a Disney movie called “Frozen.”  This movie saved me from the darkness.  It taught me a valuable lesson.  To love and take care of myself is a priority.  I vowed to be single for a year and took the opportunity to love myself.  When it was time to activate my social media accounts, I  deleted all my friends that were his.  Except for John,  he understood what happened and I asked him a favor.  To never mention his name.  Till this day, John has kept his promise.  I was willing to start all over and make new friends.  My life changed forever. 

During the year that I was single, I got hired at the Department of Veterans Affairs.  I began to arrange payments to pay my school loans.  It didn’t matter who broke my heart.  Every day, I met new people.  I made it a goal to make everyone smile.  By making a person smile, little by little my heart began to heal and learn to love myself.  After a year, I felt ready to start dating.  I knew it wasn’t going to be easy because I have hearing loss but I felt ready. 

2 thoughts on “Dating and Relationships With Hearing Loss – Part 1

  1. I’m glad you never gave up on dating again. While I never had been in relationship myself, it’s nice to learn about other HOH people who been in relationships.

    1. Relationships are scary, intimidating, and weird. Sometimes relationships can be fun, especially when you are the one leading. Even little babies have play-dates and they’re leading. If an opportunity arises, go out and have fun. Don’t fall for the first guy you meet. That was a mistake I made. You will meet Mr. Right and you will know when you are ready.

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